081130 Meeting at Coffee house

Here are the pictures from Coffee house.


HRISHESHWAR KAUSHIK (RISHI), BRI JESH BISHT, GAURAV SHARMA, SAURABH AGGARWAL, RITESH JAIN, SUDEEP BATRA, VINOD KUMAR, AKANKSHA




DEVASHISH, MADHUR JAIN, ADITYA SAXENA, HRISHESHWAR KAUSHIK, BRIJESH BISHT, GAURAV SHARMA, SAURABH AGGARWAL, RITESH JAIN




SIMARJEET SINGH, SWATI GUPTA, PANKAJ SINGHAL, DEVASHISH, MADHUR JAIN



DEVASHISH, MADHUR JAIN, ADITYA SAXENA, HRISHESHWAR KAUSHIK,
BRIJESH BISHT

OBTAIN STRENGTH BY DEVELOPING SELF CONTROL:

To try to explain meaning of self control, use some simple example:

Some students desire to do well in their studies. All those students will make their plans about their study times etc. The students, who will be able to actually follow their plans of studies more closely, will have better chance of doing well in their studies. The students, who will not be able to adhere to their own plans, will have less chance of doing well. Obviously the students, who will have better self control, will do better and eventually develop more confidence and strength.

As we all are different, we all have different characteristics about how we act. Personally I am lot less productive if I do not prepare my self in the morning by taking shower etc. My this habit made me get into a regular habit of taking shower before I start doing my work. Similarly you can develop your own habits to become relatively more productive in your works.

When you were born, you could not make any decision except when to cry or when to smile. Gradually, as you started growing up, you started making more decisions. This is the natural way. Depending upon your and your parent’s initiatives, during the upcoming year’s percentage of your decision making keeps increasing. As the time keeps passing, in addition to making your own decisions, you may start making decisions for others – your children and later even for your parents or even for your co workers. Very similarly, the time will come (understandingly you do not want to think about that time) when some decisions for you will be made by others – may be your children.

The most important part is that you should learn to make good decisions. Here I can make some suggestions.

Don’t be scared of making decisions. Some very successful person was asked as to “What was the secret of his success?” He replied “Making good decisions”. The obvious next question was “How did you learn to make good decisions?” His reply was “By making lot of decisions.”

When some result of your decision goes sour, take full responsibility for your decision and make efforts to rectify the situation.

As a human, you can not know every thing. You must keep learning by reading, listening to knowledgeable persons and keep using you judgment. Actually this learning process should never stop.

In my opinion at your age, apart from using your own judgments, take help from your parents, teachers or any other person you think may be able to help. You all will have different percentage of authority to make final decisions. For example, most of you will have 100% authority of deciding when and how much to study for different subjects. Most of you will have some restrictions as to how late you can be out in the evenings. In few years ahead, most of these restrictions will be reduced and eventually will be eliminated.

Meeting of Sunday - Feb 10

Here are the photos with a layout sketch.

Jitender Datta

Stay in control:

Try your best to be in control at all the times. Here are some of the points:

If your mind tells you that you should eat fruits and your taste tells you to eat JALABEES, don’t be controlled by your taste. In such case, if you still eat JALABEES, the taste has taken control of you and you lost the control.

If your mind tells you to prepare for your exams and your "liking" tells you to watch a movie, don’t be controlled by your "liking". If you watched movie, the "liking" controlled you and you are not in control.

The concept is that you can let your "heart" give you ideas, but make sure that you take final permission from your mind for actually deciding what to do.

I read some where that if you can win over your "desires", you will have better self-control. I am not suggesting that you should not have desires. Obviously without desires it will be hard to live a happy life. All I am saying is that always keep a rational control with the help of your mind over your all the desires. The final orders must come from your mind and not from your heart or desires.

If you "must" get tea in the morning, you are being controlled by tea and you lost control. If your body needs fluid, you should be able to drink any available good fluid. I personally prefer clean water or milk. If it is hard to find milk and I need some thing hot to drink and tea is available, I will drink tea. I will try my best so that I am not being "controlled" by tea.

Love your every idea or action

Try to imagine your status – What ever you are doing, you love it. What ever you eat, you love it. What ever you think or talk, you love it.

I am not asking you to go to an imaginary dreamland to be able to reach the above status in your life.

I am asking you to understand and follow only four principles almost all the times.

Principle No. 1: Your body is going to stay with you for only a very very short time as compared to the life of this universe around you.

Principle No. 2: This nature around you has only given you the right of actions - thinking, talking and doing. The result from your actions has never been part of your portfolio. Therefore to worry about or any attachments to the results of your actions should be gradually reduced and eventually eliminated completely.

Principle No. 3: Although emotions are important part of your life, your decisions for taking any action MUST be approved by your mind thru your rational thinking.

Principle No. 4: With some practice, Whenever your own mind is convinced, what you should be thinking or doing, you will start thinking and doing them and gradually you will start liking them.

If you keep trying above four principles almost all the times, gradually you will reach the above-described state. Any time you have any questions, please feel free to contact me and I will try to discus your concerns.