Here are some points I use.  You can review them see if you can use them:

General direction of my living:

So far I have learnt from different religions and Brahma Kumaris, and following is gist of the points.  Only reading these points may not be able to give you a lot.  To improve your living and to obtain more happiness, you should watch DVD series like Self Management, Happiness Unlimited, Going Beyond and Being Bliss by sister Shivani.

I am a soul who is residing in my body.  Purpose of this life is to interact with other souls with my original qualities, like Happiness, Love, Bliss, Knowledge / Truth, Peace, Purity, Power / Strength.

Our soul is energy and comprises of mind, intellect and sanskars.  Our thoughts generate feelings, attitudes, plans, which generate actions, then sanskars, then personalities and thereby our destiny.  Our all thoughts generate positive or negative energies, which either add or subtract from the energies of our soul.  We should try to generate only positive energies.  Helping someone generates positive energy.  Any time we are upset or angry, it creates negative energy.  If we understand that every one is CORRECT the way they react (at least from their own views), we can eliminate angers from our life.  We should strive to bring out only positivity in ourselves as well as in others.  We should not judge anyone because we cannot completely understand what he or she is going thru.

Self-respect / self-esteem, self-control and self-confidence are good.  Ahankar is bad.  Anger gets generated mainly from Ahankar.  If some one has removed Ahankar from his/her life, that person will seldom get angry.

Responsibility = Ability to Respond.

My first responsibility is for myself to stay stable, then for family, then for all other works in the world.  I understand that outside world can act in any way, but my response is always in my control.  The happiness or sorrow in me is created only by my own thoughts.  If any one becomes happy or sad because of others and outside situations, has given away his switch of happiness to others.

We should not confuse body comforts with happiness.  We can obtain unlimited happiness only from the things that are directly in our control.  We should try to understand which things are in our control and any thing which is not in our control, we should never try to change it.  The direction of our journey is in our control and destination is not.  Any thing outside of us is not in our control.  Some one, who thinks he will obtain happiness after achieving a goal, will not get unlimited happiness.  Unlimited happiness will be created when we happily keep doing our jobs.

Karmic Rules:

I have made these rules for me.  You should think about them and modify them as your thinking directs you.

I am a soul which came to take part of the process of living in a body, interact with other similar bodies, leave the body when time comes and again take up another body and keep repeating this cycle for quite long time.  When I took the very first body, I came with a perfect score and I had no positive or negative destiny.  During my successive body cycles, I kept doing positive and negative thoughts and actions, which kept creating my destinies for next cycles and also kept modifying my sanskars.

When I took my present body, I brought my sanskars and my all the previous karmic accounts with me.  The destiny created by my previous karmic accounts is the reason for whatever came in my life.  Similarly, the future things to come will be because of my previous karmas and the karmas I will be doing now.

Important point to know is that what ever karmas I have done so far, have already created my destiny, but I have the option to start modifying my destiny by changing my karmas now.