At this time I can think of following reasons as to why do we get upset and sad. If you can suggest me some other reasons, please let me know.
We criticize:
We fail to remember one thing that the person we are criticizing may be thinking that he/she may have done the best.
We start thinking that some one else should have done like this or that.
This usually makes us upset.
If we want to reduce this source of unhappiness, we should earnestly start thinking that every one should be able to use their brains just like we use our brains quite smartly. With this thinking, we may be able to understand others in a way that it will not make us upset.
We act selfish:
When we act selfish, we try to take more than we deserve from nature’s calculations. Once we receive that extra, we are scared that some day we may loose that. This increases our worries and we stay more and more upset.
With selfishness we also develop jealousy. That nature makes us compare with others who may have "more" of some thing. This brings more and more sadness.
We should develop a pattern of thinking by which we should understand that with real factors of life and nature, we are going to get what we deserve and whatever we did not get, we should not worry about.
About Me
- jtdatta
- I was born on July 16, 1940 in Bhera (presently in Pakistan). My father’s name Shri Arjun Das Datta and mother’s name Smt. Vidya Datta. In 1947 our family came to India. I completed my Intermediate exam in 1957 and joined I.I.T. Kharagpur. In 1961 I graduated in B.Tech. (Civil Engg.) and in 1962 graduated in M.Tech (Soil Mechanics). I served in Border Roads from 1962 to 1965. From 1965 till March 1967 I served in various places including teaching in C.M.E., Poona. In 1967 I migrated to England. I got married in end of 1967 and worked in Scotland till August 1969. Then I migrated to USA. In USA, I worked with several consulting companies till May 1983. This is the time when I started my own consulting company – Datta Consulting, Inc. I transferred my shares of the company on December 31, 2005 to my employees. Since 2006, I started travelling and trying to find some useful activity for me. Now my major occupation is to do some travelling and help deserving and needy persons - particularly students.